Today I was sitting in the bus, going to the train station and I was observing people around me. There were different types of people, all ages and shapes, tall, short, skinny, overweight, old, young, sad, happy. And then I realized, they are all the same, we are all the same.
We spend our time focusing on our appearence, our looks and we are constatly trying to gain/lose weight to have the perfect body. We are using make-up to enhance our features when these things doesn’t matter at all. They don’t define us.
Being a medical student I had the chance to study the human body, to discover its secret mechanism of functioning, to see its insides to take a close look at what people outside the medical field don’t have the chance to see. And trust me when I tell you, we all are the same on the inside. We all have the same hearts, the same brain, the same muscles, the same physiologic mechanisms that keep up alive. So, if we are the same regarding the way we are built, why do we judge people by their looks and by their body weight?
In the past four years I have also studied a little bit of psychology. Well, that’s where everything changes. This is where we are different. This is what sets us apart.
What makes us unique is our character, our thoughts, our ambitions, dreams, determination, failures, experiences, fears, overall, our perception over life.
Every single one of us has a different reality. We all see things with different eyes, we have a different image regarding what happens to us. We feel, love, hate, experience everything in different ways.
We all have choices to make, and we make them based on who we are, how we see life, our past experiences and what makes us happy. And being a good person is a choice. Being ambitious, courageous, kind is a choice.
I have to confess, I judge people, even if I try hard not to. It’s in our human nature to do so. But I never judge somebody based on what I see in front of me. It’s irellevant. I judge them on how good, kind, selfless and inspiring they are. In my opinion this is what matters. A person who leaves a mark on you in a good way, is ten times better than a person who is extremely beautiful on the outside but vain and unkind.
I’ve seen kindness in so many forms, and every single time it moved me. I felt an emotion flowing through my belly, I felt my heart beating faster and a deep feeling of admiration. And I smile. Everytime. Because it gives me hope. Hope than in a world where there are so many awful things happening, there are people who are fighting to make it a better place. And they are not on TV, they do not receive awards, they are not recognized. They do it without asking anything in return. This is what we should pay attention to. The difference a kind gesture can do in the world.
I also met so many beautiful people on the outside. And you admire them, and because of that you want to be like then. But in my experience beauty is not always the best thing. I’ve seen people so beautiful on the outside but so ugly on the inside. It’s unbelievable how deceiving beauty can be. And we are superficial beings, we like seing a beautiful person. But we forget it’s just genetics. When we are conceived, there is a lottery. There are millions of versions of ourselves, of what we could look like. How we look like it’s out of anyone’s control. It’s nature, chance, luck. And we cannot change it. But who we become is a choice. That is the only thing we can control.
So we should stop focusing so much on what pictures we post, how we do our make-up, how we look, how much we weight, what color should our hair be, what we should wear and start focusing on who we are, what we can achieve, how we can be kinder, better in what we do and better people, how to love more, how to give to the world and let the world give us things. And not material things. Emotions, feelings, experiences, people.
I want to wish Happy Birthday to my dear friend Michelle Espinosa . She deserves the best in the world. I have never seen a person so courageous and kind. She goes through a lot, everyday, but she managed to keep a beautiful heart, a kind soul and to keep fighting for a better life. She was always there for me when I felt bad and I will never forget all how she tried to lift me up in my hardest times. She is an inspiration and she deserves the best. I love you sweetheart and I hope our friendship will last forever.